November 24th, 2017
Ava is almost 11 months today and her hair is unbelievably silky and soft; she was born with full head of hair. I went through the worst nausea’s of my life, throw up all over my pregnancy and very midwife/OBGYN used to mention the possibility of our baby with a lot of hairs. I used to laugh loud at them; we never knew if it was a myth or scientific. But the day Ava was born, I was like oh man! you all were right. haha
We were so eager to take our baby India to visit her Grandparent’s. Her Grandparents wanted her hair to be removed in a temple per rituals. It is done for the spiritual benefit of the baby and it is believed to give fuller hair after the first tonsure. Although Senthil and myself don’t follow all the rituals, we wanted to do it for her Grandparents in Madurai, Tamil Nadu.
Grandparents had already decided the place and time for the tonsuring ceremony. The place was Thiruchendur Murugan temple at morning 8 am. Everyone woke up early morning at 5 am and we headed our journey to Thiruchendur from Palayamkottai. All along the way, the conversation was in Tamil and everyone would translate right back to me in Hindi. Whenever the jokes were cracked; everyone would laugh out loud except my blank eyes. Then later they would translate it to me and I would laugh so bad. How funny yet beautiful is our relation? This family is just so precious. I absolutely loved the family conversations and support to understand each other. Time flew in our laughs and we had reached the destination in no time at 7 am. It was a beautiful morning to see the temple beside the beach. Ava was very excited about the new place and there was a lot of kids around; she was constantly looking at everyone and their colorful dresses.
I am an open person, who likes everything that comes in my path. I absolutely love to meet people, new places, different cultures and the food. The weather is pretty hot in Tamil Nadu (although it was late November), we were extremely happy in our Hindi-Tamil conversations while sweating. So where was I; Yeah, it was 7 am morning at the destination. On our way to the temple, Senthil got me jasmine flowers to put in my hairs. I love the jasmine flowers for its fragrance & beauty. My Sister in law helped me placing the flowers on my hairs. The fragrance of the flowers was so soothing; it left my mind peaceful and meditative. Granny had also put little flowers on Ava’s hair as well. How adorable my Ava was with for those little flowers. I felt oh god, now we gonna shave her hair and I wanted to see those flower in her hair longer. It kinda made me little sad.
There was place beside the temple to shave babies hairs and lot of people were already shaving their kids head. We went inside and they asked me to give Ava and there she began to scream loud. For a min, I resisted giving my little baby. Senthil took Ava and sat in front of the hat man. I just couldn’t see shaving process as it was hurting me by seeing my baby was crying away. We have never let her cry longer than a minute for all these 10 months. Still held by her dad, I was constantly praying to get done sooner so, I could hold my baby again. As soon as it was done, I picked her up right away with my heavy heart and everyone was in tears watching Ava’s tears. We both snuggled her constantly and made her calm by doing all the fun stuff she likes and in a while, she became calm and smiled. Babies are so precious; they don’t remember what just happened and smile back to us. She taught us to forgot the tough time we faced and moved forward with a smile.
After the head shave, we finished all other rituals and went to the hotel for rest. I quickly gave a bath to ava and we put on her tradition Pattu Pavadai dress on her. She was looking so pretty in traditional attire with that shaved head, just like the ones I used to see on Tamil songs. After our shower and lunch, we went back to the temple for the pooja. And, that’s how Ava’s mundan was done. We headed back home before sunset.